Almost every couple I meet with for the very first time tell me they want to communicate better. When I ask them what that means, they have a hard time defining it. They might say they want to feel “heard” or “understood.” They might say my partner does not “get” what I’m trying to say. […]
Perspective – Your Way or My Way
The number one issue I hear about in couples counseling is poor communication. This can mean many different things. I would like to talk about communication regarding understanding perspective. When a couple argues they often complain that the other is not listening to them. They keep saying the same thing over and over and their […]
The Secret of Relationship Success
Have you ever noticed when a couple is celebrating a milestone anniversary like their 50th, they get asked what is the secret to a long, successful relationship? We all want to know what is the silver bullet to being happy in our relationships. I’m here to break the news that there is no “secret.” The […]