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Author: Debbie Woodall Carroll

Shame, Shame, Shame

Shame is a small word.  There are only 5 letters in this word.  However, this small word sure can wreak havoc and cause HUGE emotional problems!  Shame is what we feel about ourselves when we feel we have done something terrible and feel badly about ourselves.  It can lead to self-loathing and a belief of not deserving forgiveness.  Humiliation, isolation,…

The Relationship Between Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviors

Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating a specific behavior or why you experience feelings the way you do?  If so, I am here to shed some light on this by explaining the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviors.  This is also known as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – simplified.   First, let’s define these terms.  Thoughts are ideas, attitudes…

Do I Hear You Now?

In my practice I often hear couples complain about having the same conversations over and over. The same things get repeated and both are left feeling frustrated and unheard. This leads to emotional disconnect. Usually the reason for this is that both are focused on what they have to say, not on what the other is trying to express.  …

Going to the Extreme

When you are thinking about a situation, do you notice if your thoughts are going to the extreme?  Do you tend to catastrophize or assume the worst?  Do you often think in “What if?” terms?  If you said yes, you are not alone!   Most of us tend to think about the worst-case scenario when contemplating a problem.  And I…

Time For Some Spring Cleaning!

Historically, Spring has been a time for cleaning out what we no longer want or need.  It is a time for deep cleaning our houses, clearing away the cobwebs and adding fresh air to our homes.  So why not take advantage of this renewing time of year to clean out what no longer serves us emotionally?  Yes, do some spring…

Team Work Makes The Dream Work

Team work makes the dream work, right?  We have all heard this saying.  But, you may be asking what does this have to do with relationships.  With Valentine’s Day approaching, this saying may help you give the gift of yourself to your partner and strengthen your relationship.   The Team For most of us, our significant other is the first…