I believe I am a good person. I believe I am a bad person. I believe I am smart. I believe I am dumb. I believe I am pretty. I believe I am ugly. What do you believe about yourself, and why it matters. Have you ever slowed yourself down long enough to really […]
To Be Right or To Be Wrong – Is that Really the Question?
Let’s face it, we all enjoy being right, right?! So, what is so wrong with that? The simple answer is nothing is wrong with wanting to be right. The problem comes into play when we get the outcome of being right and we don’t like that outcome. Remember, right is a relative term. When […]
SELF-CARE: SELF-ish OR SELF-less?
If you were asked about your self-care what would you say? Would you say you don’t have time for that? Would you say taking care of yourself is really being selfish? Or would you say self-care is a priority for you? My experience has shown me that most people would say they are too […]
Shame, Shame, Shame
Shame is a small word. There are only 5 letters in this word. However, this small word sure can wreak havoc and cause HUGE emotional problems! Shame is what we feel about ourselves when we feel we have done something terrible and feel badly about ourselves. It can lead to self-loathing and a belief of […]
The Relationship Between Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviors
Have you ever wondered why you keep repeating a specific behavior or why you experience feelings the way you do? If so, I am here to shed some light on this by explaining the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviors. This is also known as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – simplified. First, let’s define these […]
Do I Hear You Now?
In my practice I often hear couples complain about having the same conversations over and over. The same things get repeated and both are left feeling frustrated and unheard. This leads to emotional disconnect. Usually the reason for this is that both are focused on what they have to say, not on what the other […]
Going to the Extreme
When you are thinking about a situation, do you notice if your thoughts are going to the extreme? Do you tend to catastrophize or assume the worst? Do you often think in “What if?” terms? If you said yes, you are not alone! Most of us tend to think about the worst-case scenario when […]
Mental Health Awareness Month
May is Mental Health Awareness month. So, I want to take this opportunity to help educate you about the signs of depression and to decrease the stigma of mental health by talking about it. For purposes of this blog, I am going to focus on depression since it is the most common diagnosis and affects […]
Time For Some Spring Cleaning!
Historically, Spring has been a time for cleaning out what we no longer want or need. It is a time for deep cleaning our houses, clearing away the cobwebs and adding fresh air to our homes. So why not take advantage of this renewing time of year to clean out what no longer serves us […]
Did You Zig When You Should Have Zagged?
Life usually happens through zigs and zags. How often do we make a plan and expect to go from point A to point B only to look back and see the twists and turns of our journey? Often times we second guess our decision to turn right instead of left. We zigged instead of […]