Have you ever noticed when a couple is celebrating a milestone anniversary like their 50th, they get asked what is the secret to a long, successful relationship? We all want to know what is the silver bullet to being happy in our relationships. I’m here to break the news that there is no “secret.” The […]
Category: Relationships
Spring Has Sprung
Spring is a time of renewal, regrowth and hope. After a long winter of cold, gray days, we look forward to the warmer temperatures and signs of spring on tress and in flowers. Often it is a time to clean and de-clutter our houses. It can also be a time to clean and de-clutter ourselves […]
We-ness or Me-ness
When it comes to relationships, it is important to think of yourself as being on a team. The word relationship means “the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected” (Oxford Languages). So being on a team means there is another person we need to […]
Couple Friends: What Are They and Why We Should Have Them
Friendships start from our earliest ages and we are constantly meeting and making new friends throughout life. It is good for both you and your partner to have individual friends. But, what about couple friends? Yes, it is important to also have this third set of friends who are also a couple. Having this peer […]
What Are Friends For?
Friendship is important in intimacy because friendship, if you think about it, is the building block of our lives. We get to know people and become good friends with someone, whether it’s in a romantic relationship or even a platonic friendship, by establishing a sense of intimacy. You might wonder how do we build that […]
Happy New Year Resolution
As the new year begins, people traditionally set new year’s resolutions for themselves. Sadly, most of us give up on our resolutions within the first month or two. Don’t be one of the statistics! Be smart! Set a goal that is small and attainable Have a buddy hold you accountable If you fall short, restart […]
Chicken Little vs. Dr. Spock
Imagine Chicken Little and Dr. Spock running into one another while walking down the street. Chicken Little would be running circles around Spock crying “The sky is falling! The sky is falling!” Spock would look at Chicken Little puzzled and reply in his Vulcan manner, “Chicken Little, it is not scientifically possible for the sky […]
I Believe
I believe I am a good person. I believe I am a bad person. I believe I am smart. I believe I am dumb. I believe I am pretty. I believe I am ugly. What do you believe about yourself, and why it matters. Have you ever slowed yourself down long enough to really […]
To Be Right or To Be Wrong – Is that Really the Question?
Let’s face it, we all enjoy being right, right?! So, what is so wrong with that? The simple answer is nothing is wrong with wanting to be right. The problem comes into play when we get the outcome of being right and we don’t like that outcome. Remember, right is a relative term. When […]
Do I Hear You Now?
In my practice I often hear couples complain about having the same conversations over and over. The same things get repeated and both are left feeling frustrated and unheard. This leads to emotional disconnect. Usually the reason for this is that both are focused on what they have to say, not on what the other […]